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Every Day Cheapskate

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A Number as Useful as Your Credit Score Looking to become a homeowner this year? Or maybe you want to sell your current home to move to a different location or into a larger property. More than likely, that means you’ll be shopping for a mortgage -- a home loan that will allow you to make that move.

Dear Annie

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Dear Annie: How do I deal with passive-aggressive siblings? When we are together, it can be all laughter and giggles, and the next minute all I hear are snarky comments. It took months to find out one sibling had purchased a new and expensive car. Then the talk was how to sell the old reliable model without asking my opinion. We all have social media accounts, though I have yet to see any of them post on my page. I have hobbies, and they do not; we all do volunteer work, yet there is seldom a conversation about it. I am reluctant to reach out fearing I might catch one of them on an “aggressive” day and be shut out. If I ask for household repair help, I am looked on as weak or ignored altogether. We are getting older, and I am at my wits’ end at trying to have a healthy relationship.

Dear Annie

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Dear Annie: Our little girl died. She was ill for a relatively short period of time, terminally, and while she lived longer than expected, it will never have been enough.

Dear Annie

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Dear Annie: My daughter, “Emily,” has been dating “Ben” for almost two years. Ben is a great guy, aside from one issue that’s been bugging me: He refuses to drive anywhere and instead has my daughter drive him. He says it’s because a few years ago he was in a car accident and has been scared to drive since. (He was not hurt in the accident.) He has Emily drive him to and from work every day. Emily never complains about it, but it drives me insane because Emily and her kids were also in a car accident a few years back and suffer PTSD from that accident. Ben is aware of this, but doesn’t seem to get it. He thinks it’s no big deal for Emily to get over her fear while avoiding getting over his fear. I want to say something to him so badly, but I haven’t. And every time I say something to my daughter, she gets upset with me. How can I approach the situation without making it worse? Miffed Mom Dear Miffed: Your intentions are good, and your irritation is understandable. But Emily is the one behind the wheel, figuratively and literally. When she’s tired of driving him, she can stop. Meanwhile, you can earn interest by keeping your two cents in the bank: If you avoid offering advice when your daughter hasn’t asked, she’ll be more likely to ask you for advice.

Better that voters reject Trumpism than judges do it for them. But Trump makes that case hard to argue

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Excising Donald Trump’s cancerous affect on our democracy should be up to the voters, not the courts. After all, what better way to repudiate someone — or a movement — espousing plainly anti-democratic values and policies than through the ballot box?