SAN FRANCISCO — In the wake of his death, memories of Dejan Milojevic, the coach, tell of his brutal honesty draped in disarming wit. The kind of coaching that makes you laugh, then think and internalize. Players and coaches savor the times he told them — a language barrier making him unable to sugarcoat — to buck up and get serious. To Kevon Looney, Deki told him “don’t be soft” — with a cuss…